Mother’s Day is coming up, and let’s be real—what do moms, especially entrepreneurial women, actually want? Sure, a heartfelt gift is nice, but let’s talk about what we truly desire.

For some mothers, it might be that two uninterrupted hours in the bathroom, taking a bath and listening to music, would be amazing. No knocking, no little fingers reaching under the door—just pure, blissful solitude. Simple!

But beyond private time to reset, when I think about gifts that mothers actually want, I realize that, for the most part, we don’t overwhelmingly want to be alone. Many moms, when given the chance to enjoy downtime, want to spend it with someone special—a best friend, a sister, their own mother. A self-care day is even better when it’s shared, like getting pedicures together or treating a loved one while also indulging ourselves.

That said, let’s be honest: waiting around for someone to magically plan the perfect Mother’s Day for us is a recipe for disappointment. We can’t sit back and hope that our partners or families will just know what we want. The fantasy of them reading our minds and orchestrating the entire day without input? Let’s get real. If you have specific wishes—whether it’s a gift card to your favorite salon, a spa day, or even something extravagant like a weekend getaway—you need to say it.

And please, for the love of all things sacred, let’s retire the “surprise factor” when it comes to gifts. If you don’t communicate what you actually want, you might end up with a Dyson vacuum or a Ninja blender. Yes, they’re expensive, but the whole family uses them, and that doesn’t exactly scream personal appreciation.

Own Your Joy

I’ve taken this approach with my own birthday. I design my own cake, order it myself, and ensure that it’s exactly what I want. Some people might think that’s ridiculous. Honestly? I don’t care. It guarantees that I get the experience I want, and it also sets an example for my kids: celebrations matter, and you can take charge of making them special.

So, if you want something specific, make it happen.

When you make your Mother’s Day “wishlist” it might look something like:

• I don’t want to touch a dish for three days. More specifically, I don’t want to see the dishes pile up in the sink at all. Taking this task out of my day would be terrific.
  
  

• Our toddler still doesn’t sleep through the night, I would love for my partner to take over completely for a full weekend—no “last resort” wake-ups.
  
  

• Maybe a splurge or time away is in order. Booking a hotel room for me at a destination you know I’d enjoy, with accommodations taken care of (spa time, a walking guide, or even designated nap time, etc.) would be amazing. And hey, maybe my bestie wants to join?
  
  

Think about it this way—would you buy tires for your partner’s car as a gift? No. You wouldn’t guess which overpriced supplement they’ve been eyeing and hope you got it right. So why do we expect them to nail it without guidance?

A Little Something Extra

If you love celebrating with someone special, QVD Salon is running a Mother’s Day promotion: buy a pedicure, and your manicure is free! The best part? It’s valid through the end of May, so there’s no ticking clock right around Mother’s Day.

And if you’re looking for a thoughtful, stylish gift, check out Quinnessentials for our spring collection. I admit I’m guilty of loving all things beige, cream, and black, but there’s something for everyone—sizes ranging from small to 4XL, travel accessories, gorgeous beach towels, and stunning floral-cutout swimsuits. 

If you prefer to shop in person, you can even book a private try-on session at the salon with Nikki, complete with bubbly and a curated selection just for you. Trust me, Target isn’t doing that for you. You can book a time for that by getting in touch with me on IG @quinn.vise!

For Moms Who Don’t Know What They Want

If you’re in a season of rediscovering yourself—where you’re so used to taking care of everyone else that you don’t even know what you want—take time to reflect. Journaling is a great place to start. A friend of mine, who has eight boys (imagine that) literally retreats into her closet, shuts off the lights, and sits in silence to gather her thoughts. Maybe that sounds extreme, but for her, it works.

And here’s the thing, you have to make space for yourself. You set the standard for how you are treated. You can’t just brush it off with, “Oh, my partner works hard, and I don’t want to ask for too much.” 

Everyone’s partner works hard. 

Everyone has bills. 

That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be acknowledged.

Mother’s Day isn’t just about you, it’s about setting an example for your kids. Show them that celebrating the people who keep a household running matter 🤍 Teach them that appreciation and recognition are important. Because one day, they’ll be in your shoes, and they’ll remember what you modeled for them.

So, whether it’s a weekend away, an uninterrupted nap, or just a day without dishes—speak up, own it, and make it happen.

Why?

Simple: because you & we deserve it.

Find me on IG @quinn.vise and DM me about what you want most for Mothers Day—what you want matters to me. 

Said with love,

Quinn